So, somehow, I accidentally became part of a Facebook group for women who follow an eating plan called IIFYM – aka – If It Fits Your Macros, and tend to be pretty committed to exercising. If you have known me for any length of time at all, you might kind give me that one eyebrow up look like, huh?
But truth be told – they are pretty much my favorite Facebook people ever and here is why-
- Whereas the women in my other Facebook group ( the travel one) can quickly turn catty and very judgey, these women are ridiculously nice and supportive of one another.
- They actually post things that sound like they are trying to help one another or even just be part of the conversation. There are so many laughing and smiley emojis. And they talk about stuff that most women never talk about but would probably feel better if they did.
- The whole group is based on what is called Flexible Eating – hence the If It Fits Your Macros. The idea is that you try to eat about 80% clean healthy food and allow about 20% for the fun stuff. But it’s all based on science and math – basically, if you operate at a calorie deficit, you’ll lose weight. However within those calories, you shoot for certain percentages of macros – fat, carbs, and protein. So no one is shoving highly processed “low point” bars down your throat or specialized spoons to measure things – it’s all about eating what you like, in healthy portions and giving your body the nutrients it needs to operate efficiently.
- The other night a woman said she ate “bad” because, if I remember correctly, it was processed – aka- delicious. Someone else reminded her, that if it fit her macros, it’s fine, you just adjust somewhere else. But my favorite comment was by another group member who said “foods don’t have morals”
Think about the power in that statement. There are no bad foods, no good food. Are some foods healthier? Sure. Are some foods more decadent and maybe shouldn’t be consumed everyday? Sure. But she was right, foods don’t have morals. I can not think of single friend that I have, male or female, who I have not had some conversation with in the last year about them waiting to lose weight or eat better and so on – Wait, I have one male friend who is an avid mountain biker that I have never had that talk with.
So this makes me think – like everything in our lives, whether we admit it or know it or not, we are in control of the choices we make and let’s get some prospective – eating a chocolate doughnut with cream filling isn’t like blowing up the Death Star – it just probably has a little higher fat and carb value and if you are aware of that, you can adjust as the day goes on to make sure you still have a balanced day.
I know that everyone believes some different version of science about food and the body that they think they know – remember the grapefruit diet, the cabbage soup diet, Atkins, Jenny Craig, keto and so on. But I like this holistic approach to things because it is adaptable for everyone – those who are allergic to eggs, dairy, nuts, gluten – you just eat what fits for you.
By now, you’re probably thinking, oh crap, what is she trying to butter us up to buy? I’m not selling anything but I wanted to explain this because I am super excited because I actually connected with one of the coaches for this group, got some info and we worked out some numbers for me. In case you were wondering, I don’t live in a bubble, I know that I might benefit from a few tiny life style tweaks. But I tell you all this because, once I do, then you’re all wondering how things are going and I kind of have my own personal cheering squad/audience. My hope is that by saying this out loud, it solidifies my commitment and I can start to make some changes.
Also, as your reward for reading all of this -I will also tell you that I successfully completed 4 dates with my undercover superhero with negotiations underway for a 5th. 🙂
PS – I still haven’t told my mom.