As we’re all aware, time is marching on, whether we like it or not. It’s now just a few days into the new year and that magic time of year where people normally make declarations about things they are going to change – aka resolutions.
Here’s the thing, some camps believe new year’s resolutions are crap because you can’t really make new habits, routines etc, unless you are really ready to and that can happen at any time through out the year. Others believe that the fresh calendar and new year are the perfect time for changes. I fall somewhere in the middle.
I have 5 female friends I communicate with pretty regularly ( I have more than 5 friends, it’s just that there are 5 that I communicate with almost daily) and in the last week or so, each one has revealed to me their plan for weight loss in the New Year – Weight Watchers, Weight Watchers, Weird restrictive plan where you “enjoy” a chia bowl hot or cold in the morning, complicated medical thing and carb counting.
While I admire their determination, it made me a little sad. ( now before I go any further, I will own up to having my own fancy new eating plan) Food is one of life’s simplest pleasures and they all have decided that foods are either “good” or “bad”. I don’t share in this view. Food all offers different nutrients and components our bodies need to run, some are just packaged more efficiently than others. And like anything else, we just need to find the balance between crap dip and salads; ice cream and fruit; red meat and fish.
So tonight, I was awake in the middle of the night for no good reason and was hungry and made myself toast out of french bread. I had sliced it thick so that it was crunchy on the outside and soft on the inside. After it was properly toasted, I used a decent amount of real – in a stick- butter on it. I sat down with a glass of buttermilk to have my toast and the first bite was amazing – the warm, salty butter had melted against the crusty bread and quite frankly, was amazing. And it was so simple and that brings me to my point. If we all have the overwhelming need for change this year, lets focus on balance and finding the joy everywhere we can in life. Balancing our need to do chores, vacuuming, laundry against taking time to relax; balancing idle time with on the go time; balancing the need to be so task focused with “free time” and avoiding a situation where we can’t even take a minute to enjoy how amazing warm melted butter can be on a simple piece of toast.
Last year was a rough year but in the end, I wouldn’t have changed a thing. I found myself again and completely fell back in love with her. She’s pretty awesome, kind, sassy and inappropriately humorous.
Every January, I have big plans to stay on top of laundry, do my dishes in a timely manner and all that other crap and by February, I’m back to working in my flannel nightgown because it’s the only thing I have left clean and I have to dip into the plastic silverware I keep for parties because, well you know. But this year, I’m not gonna kid myself. At 42.75 years old, I am who I am and instead of fighting it, I’m going to embrace me and not worry about clean underwear as much but take time to plan and prepare for things I want to do. I want to take more pictures, read more books, watch horrible TV that entertains me, take time to make myself nutritious foods not because it’s on some diet plan, but because they are good and provide me with the building blocks I need to use my body for life, say yes to spending time with people I care about and generally putting joy first. I’m also, going to give you permission to serve your family pizza for dinner tonight instead of cooking so you have an extra 20 minutes to read a second book at bedtime or ask about science class or show your kids the wonders of mixing vinegar, food coloring and baking soda in the kitchen sink or hide and have time to polish your toenails.
Really my friends, if you are going to make an resolutions this year, focus on joy and being kind to yourself because once you can do that, it gives you so much more energy to more easily be able to be the person you want to be.